4 Prayers for the Hyper-Aggressive Child and FREE PRINTABLE!

An Embarrassing Parenting Moment

It was supposed to be a joyous occasion, where the families of our little man’s preschool class could come together to celebrate the birth of Jesus.

I was excited to finally get to know the other families and watch our children play together.  Dressed to impress, I sauntered into the preschool Christmas party ready to meet new mom friends and enjoy a time of fellowship.

From the first moment, I could see my hopes were dashed as my child acted out and embarrassed me to the core.

The other children were playing nicely, while mine was running around screaming (shrieks of joy, but still screams!) or melting down at any given moment.  Plus, he was hitting and being aggressive, but in his own way, this was fun and games.

I wanted to hide under the table, mortified by my child’s behavior!  More than anything I wanted him to calm down and behave like the other kids.

Instead of new mom friends, all I received was glaring looks of pity or irritation.  That day will always be with me as a reminder not of great embarrassment, but of my poor reaction to his behavior.

My Poor Reaction

I remember in my humiliation, God’s gentle whisper of hope for my son, reminding me of His perfect acceptance of me at the cross and His free gift of grace. Gone were the feelings of irritation and frustration as I came face to face with my own glaring flaws and remembered who I am; a sinner, just like my child.  Being his parent means lavishing grace freely, loving him in spite of his struggles and praying through his hyper and aggressive behavior.

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Besides the strategies we’re using to improve his behavior, I needed to hit my knees and pray for change for both of our imperfect hearts.  As I’ve accepted his strong, wild personality, my heart for my child has changed and has included fervent prayers in the following areas.

1.) Self-Control

Self-control does not come easily to my boy.  In fact, it’s a down-right struggle.  Being both hyper and aggressive, he has struggled at school (even at three years old!) with self-control.

If you’re the parent of an aggressive and hyper child, guide him/her along this path by talking about self-control and praying for this with your child.

Praise in those moments of restraint and help him/her work through this behavior in times of struggle.

I’ve realized that I need to be a great model of self-control, by reigning in my feelings and temper in his fits.  And when I stumble and fall, I use those moments as teachable times to ask his forgiveness.

2.) A Calm Spirit

There are times when I can almost feel his wild spirit rage as the energy radiates from him.  In those moments, I pray for God’s gentle presence to bring peace and calming to his fierce spirit.

When you feel your child is out of control, remember that God is in control.  

Pray that His mighty, gentle Spirit will invade your child and still the wildness.

Your child’s temperament does not take God by surprise.  In fact your child was molded in His image, and God does not make mistakes.

Also pray that as your child grows and matures, he/she will begin to recognize the signs of hyper, aggressive behavior and use strategies to calm and reign himself in.

3.) Intervention and Ways to Manage

As I pray for the growth of my son, I pray that God will lead us to ways to help him thrive despite his behavior.

In a society quick to medicate and issue a label, my prayer is that the Lord will give us wisdom and strategies to manage these behaviors and tangible ways to help him experience success.

Parents, do you have strategies for success that help your child?  Currently we use essential oils, a modified diet, and consistent parenting to help him grow and manage himself, but I always enjoy hearing what works for other families.  Please share with me your struggles and victories in the comment section below.

4.) Acceptance

My mother’s heart breaks when I see students and even teachers keep their distance from him.  I understand that he is a handful and can be hard to take, so I pray acceptance over him.

I’m sure I am not alone in this, either.  Parents, let’s pray that God will soften the hearts of those people around our spirited children.  May He give these outsiders understanding and the ability to look past behaviors.

May our children find friends who offer acceptance and model self-control.  May teachers bestow grace time and time again, modeling patience and understanding.  As a parent, may I continuously be a reflection of Christ’s love and mercy, even on those days when my limits have been pushed.

Through it all, may we as parents learn to lean on God’s strength in those tough moments and to surrender our child back to God, knowing He will continue the good works He began.

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Sarah Ann


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6 thoughts on “4 Prayers for the Hyper-Aggressive Child and FREE PRINTABLE!”

  1. I sit here in tears and at my wits end. Thank you for the words of encouragement. I love my guy because of how special he is. Thank you again.

  2. Our lives are a living HELL right now and I am just searching for anything and everything to help our four year old hyper aggressive child. Some days are incredibly difficult. He screams, hits, bites, throws things and is defiant. We are absolutely at a loss. The only thing that I have every known to be 100% effective is PRAYER. I needed this and I will print it out and put in on every wall in our house to remind us to pray pray and pray more four a precious child. We cannot live like this anymore. I love my son too much to allow his spirit to be crushed.

  3. Hi, I started reading this and the first thought that came to mind was diet. Many chemicals ie food colouring, preservatives and many other additives can contribute, and even cause, behaviours like this. I don’t know if it’s something you have looked into or not, but maybe someone out there hasn’t so I thought I’d comment and try to help someone out.
    There are many websites that detail the signs and symptoms of these additives in food and how to eliminate them from what is eaten. The ones I can think of off the top of my head are Additive Free Kids, Sue Dengate’s Failsafe elimination diet book, Additive Alert, The Chemical Maze and there are others but I can’t think of them right now.
    It’s a very interesting topic and I have learnt a lot since being on this particular journey.
    I hope this may help a struggling mum. 🙂

  4. So i have 4 boys our oldest is 16, then 14, 12, n almost 3. Our 16 year old is actually the only one that we dont worry anout constant cuz he has a very good descion maker he already knows he wants to go to colleage to become a quantum physists. However our other 3 since may have became a daily battle about everything. I’ll start with our 3 year old he screams just about all but maybe 2 hours outta the day but more so after the boys get home from school since school started he dont really scream during the day, but lately he has been very combative, or hits or throws things at you n says no ive tried time out n spankings but so far not getting anywhere. Our 14 n 12 year old where do i begin they both argue about everything it dont matter what it is they argue with each other, with me, there dad n even at school. They aint doing well at school cuz they wont do there assignments n if they do they wont turn them in, our 12 year old trys to teach the teachers instead of the way it is posta be. And our 14 yr old well the school is sending us to a child specialist cuz they think he was misdiagnosed at age 6 with ADHD but instead is on the autism spectrum he is failing every class right now. They are constantly hitting each other, name calling, n never do anything i say. Im at my whits end can someone please help. Thanks.


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