No one ever said homeschooling would be easy. I accepted that challenge. Homeschooling is unpredictable. I embraced that thought. Yet, frustration came along and it was an unwelcome guest. Frustration leads to anger and anger leads to defeat. What is the real reason we get so frustrated teaching our dyslexic child?
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The Real Reason Homeschooling a Dyslexic Child is Frustrating
Some days tears wash the dining room table and some days the dining room floor feels the pounding of victory laps. Homeschooling a dyslexic child is a journey but there are times I feel like I packed the wrong shoes. On tearful days, I scold myself for being impatient and becoming frustrated. That feeling is normally followed by guilt because I know my child is doubly frustrated. Soon the feeling of defeat rolls in and tells me that I cannot take on this task of homeschooling my dyslexic child.
Do you beat yourself up and think you are not fit because you don’t have the patience required to homeschool?
Why do we see another struggling child and feel we would have the patience of a saint?
What are we doing wrong?
First, let’s take a deep breath. We didn’t endeavor to homeschool because we are cowards. We decided to forge ahead because it was the best road for our family. When packed for this adventure we didn’t leave out self-doubt or the trap of comparison. The pressure of having your child’s education on your shoulders serves to amplify those feelings. We have a vested interest in seeing our children thrive and that interest is often led with the heart. We want the best for them and self-doubt whispers words that heighten our insecurity. Add in dyslexia…wow…we will do nothing but second guess ourselves…at least for awhile. Homeschooling brings pressure from within as well as from the outside.
Our Journey with Dyslexia
When I began homeschooling my dyslexic child, I worked so hard to find the right curriculum. We worked really hard to see even the smallest victory. Yet, the world tends to miss small victories. They see slow progress. The look of victory fades into insecurity. Was I at fault for this “slow progress”? With self-doubt in my eyes, I saw judgment from all sides. Were they all thinking my child was failing because I was failing by child? Could it be true that I pushed my child to success to legitimize my own ability to homeschool her? You see, my frustration was linked to fear and pride. The fear that I was incapable and the pride of not wanting it to be revealed as such caused me to feel judged and to get frustrated with my child.
I remember reading how a dyslexic child feared going to school daily due to judgment and the pressure from friends and teachers to read aloud or to progress. My heart broke for that child and was immediately thankful that my child was homeschooled and didn’t have to face the same thing. I was right about one thing. My child didn’t have to face the same thing. But was she? Was I creating the very environment that I was trying to avoid? Was I cultivating a ground where blooms would never grow because of tension and stress? The real reason for the frustration was my own insecurity. I had a few things to face. My child’s struggles are not a reflection of an inability to homeschool. My child’s successes belong to my child, not to my pride.
How are you struggling?
Dig deep. Are you struggling with fear? Are you struggling with pride? We homeschool to create an atmosphere of learning for our individual child. We cannot allow fear or pride to invade our homeschool. Our homeschool should be a safe haven where all are valued and not defined by their struggles and shortcomings.
Yes, I know it can feel defeating and frustrating to teach the sound of “a” for days and days. Yet, I promise you that you are not ill-equipped because you feel ill-equipped. I promise you don’t have to listen to anyone who says otherwise. I promise it is not defeat to find the best solution from an outside source like a tutor or online program. Push aside fear and self-doubt and homeschool with your heart without losing your head.
FREE My Superpower is Dyslexia Posters
Encourage your dyslexic child by gifting him or her with this FUN poster to decorate a binder or hang above a homeschool desk. We want to reinforce the truth that dyslexia is nothing to be ashamed of. We must celebrate their victories with them each day!